This is not a joke anymore

It is not enough for people to judge themselves on the basis of their 'breadth' and 'weight'... there are other beauty factors i have failed to mention - Skin tone, hair, facial features, 'assets'. Mostly i feel now, we have become more judgmental about our own appearances than others.

While women have been piling on make up and bathing in beer and milk for generations, they have come out with another way of enhancing their beauty - Eating disorders and plastic surgery. I am not going to say that i am the hard working kind and i understand i have no place to say anything in this matter when i myself can be counted as three people in one body. However, as an opinionated person, i have to make this call - Standards of beauty have been raised too high. 

While my heart pains as i see all the pretty women around me, my brain tells me - " Why are you not enhancing what you really are good at!?" This really just hit me tonight, why have i stopped doing what i was good at? Why am i looking for others' approval? Do they matter so much to me? Yes staying fit should be a way of life, but, looking good can never be a necessity. It SHOULD never be a necessity. Looking back to my school years and early college life, i knew i was a good student. I got through thick novels days, i read up on facts and used to be a biology wiz! 

Now what am i good at? I am an average student, an average employee and to add to that, i have average looks. I know, it is not too late for me yet. I am still in my twenties, i have a long way to go before mid life crisis puts me into depression and i take an oath. I will look forward to being fit and healthy as i may please. More than that, i will get back to  what i did best - BE A NERD! 

I always wanted to be thin and popular. In college, i came close to being one of those and it came back and slapped me right in the face, looking back i know i have lost quite a few 'friends' in the 'pursuit of cool', but all is not ruined yet. All i have to keep in mind is - beauty is still just skin deep. One day it has to fade away, why try to keep my vanity inflated, when i have so much to discover in life Maybe all this is the leftover teenager hormones in me speaking, but really, it is high time girls got out of this stigma of BEING FAT! 

You have a muffin top? EMBRACE IT! Your belly jiggles when you walk? PUT SOME MUSIC ON FOR IT! Who is going to care about your BMI when you become a successful lawyer, artist, engineer, writer, even POLITICIAN? Do you think any one deep enough for basic comprehension ever wondered what Indra Gandhi had for breakfast? Or why Oprah was not really a skinny blonde ? 

I can give the answer - No one cares! No one cares about your looks when you have achieved something in life. (Another thought to add- About achievements; It won't fit here though, another post for that).

Anyway, this outburst came because of a close friend of mine, going on about her looks. She and i were - infact, are, on the same boat. Fat, average and nothing better to do but to drone about and wallow in self pity. Till. She showed me a video. A video about an anorexic woman. Who was ironically talking about anorexia being a dangerous disease. And all i heard from her by the end of it was, "Isn't she thin? I wish i was that thin." 

This is what has happened to teenagers now, they cannot fathom a deeper meaning to anything! All has to be about looks and looks only! My eyes were opened and i wish i can do the same for my friend. The sad part is, she does not realise there are people who find her pretty, there are people who cherish her. All she is running after is the approval of the people who could think of nothing better of an insult than calling her fat. 

This is the video we watched together - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz-nPMTXduo&NR=1&feature=fvwp ... Try and prove my outburst wrong.